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A. Draw on the positives.
B. Deal with the pain.
C. Find support from others.
D. Use rejection to your advantage.
E. Don’t let negative feelings hold you down.
F. Keep track of your thoughts.
Harry Potter was rejected. So were Bella and Edward. If authors J.K. Rowling and Stephenie Meyer hadn’t kept trying with publisher after publisher, we’d all have missed out on some great adventures. Life is about going for things. And when we do, rejection is always a possibility. The better we get at dealing with rejection, the less it affects us. So how can you build that ability to cope? Here are some ideas:
Coping well with rejection involves working with two things: how you feel and what you think. Let’s start with feelings: If yo u get rejected, acknowledge it to yourself. Don’t try to brush off the hurt or pretend it’s no t painful. Instead of thinking “I shouldn’t feel this way,” think about how normal it is to feel like you do, given your situation.
Notice how intense your feelings are. Did this rejection upset you a lot? Or just a little? Cry if you want to or tell someone else what happened and how you feel about it.
Now on to what you think: Consider how you’re explaining the rejection to yourself. Are you being too hard on yourself? It’s natural to wonder, “Why did this happen?” When you give yourself an explanation, be careful to stick to the facts.
Tell yourself: “I got turned down for prom because the person didn’t want to go with me.” Don’t tell yourself: “I got turned down because I’m not attractive” or “I’m such a loser.” These aren’t facts. They’re imagining a reason, reading too much into a situation. If thoughts like these start creeping into your mind, shut them down.
Tell yourself: “OK, so I got rejected this time. Maybe next time, I’ll get a ‘yes’ ” or “Oh, well. This is what happened. I don’t like it. But everyone gets rejected – and I can try again.”
Think about what you’re good at and what’s good about you. Remember times when you’ve been accepted, when you made the cut, when someone told you “yes.” Think of all the people who like you and support you. Remind yourself that you can handle the rejection. Even though you were turned down now, there will be another opportunity, another time.
A rejection is a chance to consider if there are things we can work on. It’s OK to think about whether there’s room for improvement or if your goals were higher than your skills.
If your skills weren’t strong enough this time, maybe you need to work on your game, your studies, or whatever it takes to improve your chances of getting accepted next time. Use the rejection as an opportunity for self-improvement.